Perhaps you, too, have wondered: was what she said from her heart? Or was it a show of manners?
Often when friends ask us for our opinion, we tend to smile compliment on it without thinking over the phrases streaming through our lips. The result is an endless loop of overused words that sound bored. Words of praise that make you sound like you don’t care.
I’m surrounded by people much abler than myself, and am constantly amazed by happenings around me. But when I acknowledge their successes, I always use the ‘ultimate degree’ of adoration: ‘Genius!’ ‘You’re amazing.’ ‘Brilliant’. So when someone does something even better than what I’d seen the other day, I still use the same words. And they get old and worn over a few months, and start getting sick of hearing myself utter these same words day after day after day.
‘A good intention clothes itself with power.’ For our praise to sound and be more sincere, though, we have to have not only pure intentions, but also choicer (the good sort!) words to our phrases. Why not try and browse for some handy phrases before you go to bed? Reminds me of a poem linking those born in June to happy friendships:
‘By her who is this month was born
No gem save Pearls shall be worn
They will ensure her constancy
True friendship and fidelity.’
Actually, the old poem is the same for every month, except the gem is altered to be each month’s birthstone. Nice.